College Days

When I see herd of birds flying or group of kids playing, my heart dances rhythmically with joy and inspired brain joins the party to remind me of the sweet memories and funny Moments.

I still remember those days of captaining a team which barely wins; maintaining a group which never fights but always challenges and making girl enemies instead of friends.

I laugh at my innocence when I remember what happened during my 7th grade. One day 2 girls in our class dressed very well and came to college with lots of gifts and bands. Though I and my friend did not like those girls we still wanted to take the gifts. They tied bands to entire class except two of us. That really hurt us and hated those girls so much. That day was Rakhee bandan and it took long time to realize how fortunate we are.

The same innocence continued even during my first year of engineering. One of the seniors asked me to get eraser from a girl in Lab. With little apprehension I approached her and the conversation goes like this

Me: Hi, meeru koncham eraser istara”

She: Do I look like old aunty for you”, why do call me meeru and all.

Here she appeared to me like a cat that is running for rat. Then I again requested her in a friendly way

Me: “ Nuvu koncham eraser istava”

She: How long do you know me? How dare you call me “nuvvu”.

I saw her ID with her name X

Me: X can you give me eraser?

She: Don’t you know how to talk with seniors. How dare you order like my boss?

After some Tom and Jerry fight I finally got the much awaited eraser and at that point I felt like Alexander the Great.

Later I understand that I am not Alexander the Great but Bhakra of the week, when I heard she is fresher and my classmate joined few weeks before me.

Love or Arranged, Does not matter!!!

That was a time whenever I go to Events or functions, people rained questions about my future plans or about my GRE scores, well some with concern and some for a chance to ridicule or compare with their kids. By Gods grace I scored really good and got into decent school and had no trouble to face the turbulent jet of questions.

But now where ever I go people ask when you are tying a knot, this time not just in events alone but also in international Bazaars. But luckily I don’t have any trouble from my parents at least. Even if they have it’s their concern and all they want us to settle well in life with good person.

Some of western friends always wondered why we don’t date and to explain them about our marriage system, so called arranged Marriage; it takes last sip of my coke. Well I always supported the system before them but then do I really? Is Arranged marriage best over Love marriage?

It’s not fast and proven but statistically speaking arranged marriages are more successful than love marriages. In saying so do we think couples with arranged marriages are really happy? Well the answer is not definite, but then couples with love marriages are happy? I Guess no. Then what is best and is there an answer?

Speaking about arranged marriages, its great philosophy involved, where two families are joined together for lifetime. Here basically parents study the viability and compatibility based on many factors like astrology; family values etc and join the couple in a vivacious way with all traditional rituals and for one moment it feels like angles being the made of honor for bride and couple getting wedded on laps of peacock, Its exotic atmosphere and so electrifying.

I some times feel it is the power of ritual or great reasoning with judgment by parents or later the discipline of the married couple which will bind them together forever. But then truly speaking, arranged marriages are successful because of adjustments or compromises and a close knit by family which will always help the couple in understand and adjust for one other. And guide them in every way to achieve perfect matrimony, after all this is great foundation to find love in each other. It feels right!

Love marriages some times may not be successful because they have fewer adjustments or not truly knit well by the family. As I said earlier many misunderstand love, which could probably be mere attraction, and definitely is not a great foundation for a relationship.

Whether it be Love or Arranged Marriage, it’s the understanding and one’s belief in each other makes lives better and builds a solid foundation for their relationship.

So if you already found true love then just respect the relationship and make sure you never lose it. Otherwise Arranged marriage is not bad at all and it’s an institution which will help improve our personality and teach us how to adjust and respect personal values. Whatever be it, just understand and respect each other, it does not matter the way you are united when you find the comfort and chemistry.