There is no argument in saying moonlight is the most romantic ambiance or Julia Roberts is great actress but the argument still lasts in what is love?
Lots of my friends including me always felt that love marriage is perfect because it helps develop chemistry and deep understanding of each other but some times I feel climbing Everest could be easier than finding true love. Saying so one would ask then why would there be many lovers if its really that hard? well my point is how many of this lovers truly feel made for each other or live together for life time. And why so many break ups if theirs is love? Here is my reasoning.
I always observed people getting confused with feelings like crush, liking,attraction, infatuation and proximity infatuation. After all this feelings sense almost same but means a lot different just like how camp fer tastes different than salt having almost same look.If I have to define them, this is how I do.
Crush is temporary attraction, which is a mere following of the current trend or craze and changes very often just like climate here in US. This probably could be a start for relationship but not really is.
And liking is appreciating the qualities or some aspects in a person which probably can lead to friendship or adoration in some way.
Attraction is more intense than crush where you want to be in this persons company for some reason, probably this can be a good start for relationship. At this stage most of us don't act real and always try to impress the opposite sex which could probably lead to misunderstandings later in relationship. Quiet often we see people in attraction consider as love and this is a potential cause for later breakups.
Infatuation happens more intense than attraction where you are more involved with each other. This feelings would appear intense but can fade away with time or situations.
Proximity infatuation develops when they are attracted and always together most of the times. This is intense but can fade away with separation.
Most of us tend to marry considering all the above feelings as love which off course can be building blocks to a relationship but then the true foundation is clear and deep understanding of each other and a feeling which will bind them together forever at any cost.
As I said this is not a fact like sun rises in the east and is most debatable. I just said what I felt and I welcome arguments. I will continue with arranged marriages in my next blog until then Chao!!!
Lots of my friends including me always felt that love marriage is perfect because it helps develop chemistry and deep understanding of each other but some times I feel climbing Everest could be easier than finding true love. Saying so one would ask then why would there be many lovers if its really that hard? well my point is how many of this lovers truly feel made for each other or live together for life time. And why so many break ups if theirs is love? Here is my reasoning.
I always observed people getting confused with feelings like crush, liking,attraction, infatuation and proximity infatuation. After all this feelings sense almost same but means a lot different just like how camp fer tastes different than salt having almost same look.If I have to define them, this is how I do.
Crush is temporary attraction, which is a mere following of the current trend or craze and changes very often just like climate here in US. This probably could be a start for relationship but not really is.
And liking is appreciating the qualities or some aspects in a person which probably can lead to friendship or adoration in some way.
Attraction is more intense than crush where you want to be in this persons company for some reason, probably this can be a good start for relationship. At this stage most of us don't act real and always try to impress the opposite sex which could probably lead to misunderstandings later in relationship. Quiet often we see people in attraction consider as love and this is a potential cause for later breakups.
Infatuation happens more intense than attraction where you are more involved with each other. This feelings would appear intense but can fade away with time or situations.
Proximity infatuation develops when they are attracted and always together most of the times. This is intense but can fade away with separation.
Most of us tend to marry considering all the above feelings as love which off course can be building blocks to a relationship but then the true foundation is clear and deep understanding of each other and a feeling which will bind them together forever at any cost.
As I said this is not a fact like sun rises in the east and is most debatable. I just said what I felt and I welcome arguments. I will continue with arranged marriages in my next blog until then Chao!!!
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3 comments:
nice one..
Breakups are not due to lack of love. Due to lack of control of emotions(Ego).Breakups also happen due to lack of understanding, external factors (family).
Yeah you are right!!!
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