Love or Arranged, Does not matter!!!

That was a time whenever I go to Events or functions, people rained questions about my future plans or about my GRE scores, well some with concern and some for a chance to ridicule or compare with their kids. By Gods grace I scored really good and got into decent school and had no trouble to face the turbulent jet of questions.

But now where ever I go people ask when you are tying a knot, this time not just in events alone but also in international Bazaars. But luckily I don’t have any trouble from my parents at least. Even if they have it’s their concern and all they want us to settle well in life with good person.

Some of western friends always wondered why we don’t date and to explain them about our marriage system, so called arranged Marriage; it takes last sip of my coke. Well I always supported the system before them but then do I really? Is Arranged marriage best over Love marriage?

It’s not fast and proven but statistically speaking arranged marriages are more successful than love marriages. In saying so do we think couples with arranged marriages are really happy? Well the answer is not definite, but then couples with love marriages are happy? I Guess no. Then what is best and is there an answer?

Speaking about arranged marriages, its great philosophy involved, where two families are joined together for lifetime. Here basically parents study the viability and compatibility based on many factors like astrology; family values etc and join the couple in a vivacious way with all traditional rituals and for one moment it feels like angles being the made of honor for bride and couple getting wedded on laps of peacock, Its exotic atmosphere and so electrifying.

I some times feel it is the power of ritual or great reasoning with judgment by parents or later the discipline of the married couple which will bind them together forever. But then truly speaking, arranged marriages are successful because of adjustments or compromises and a close knit by family which will always help the couple in understand and adjust for one other. And guide them in every way to achieve perfect matrimony, after all this is great foundation to find love in each other. It feels right!

Love marriages some times may not be successful because they have fewer adjustments or not truly knit well by the family. As I said earlier many misunderstand love, which could probably be mere attraction, and definitely is not a great foundation for a relationship.

Whether it be Love or Arranged Marriage, it’s the understanding and one’s belief in each other makes lives better and builds a solid foundation for their relationship.

So if you already found true love then just respect the relationship and make sure you never lose it. Otherwise Arranged marriage is not bad at all and it’s an institution which will help improve our personality and teach us how to adjust and respect personal values. Whatever be it, just understand and respect each other, it does not matter the way you are united when you find the comfort and chemistry.